Before getting into that relationship...

It's 2020! Since this is my first post of the year, Happy New year Guys!!!!!!!

Honestly, not much feels different but in the spirit of being better as each day passes, I want to talk about something very important (adjusts imaginary glasses). As the title must have already told you, I'm addressing the things you need to understand before getting into a relationship.

Almost everywhere I turn, I see posts like '2020 is the year I finally get into a relationship!' or 'I'm definitely not leaving 2020 single'. It's nice to know what you want but why you want what you want, matters a lot too.
Relationships are amazing, only when they are with the right people. Due to the wealth of experience I have gathered as the designated relationship expert among my clique of friends, who is still very single, I think I'm qualified enough to write this article.

Now that's all cleared up, let's get down to the main business (insert upbeat dramatic sound)

• Being single is not a death sentence:

For single pringles like me, you need to realize the amazing things about being single. I know this may seem like a consolation but it is not. There are so many amazing things about being single. So many things we miss all because we are so engrossed in the idea of relationships. So before you get into a relationship, ascertain your reasons. You shouldn't be getting into a relationship just because you're tired of being single. You'll most likely get out of it like you did the single world.

• You need to be healed:                                   For those of you who are just getting out of a relationship, getting into another one immediately, may not be the best idea. Your heart needs time to heal. You need time to understand why the previous relationship did not work out, heal from the hurt that may have caused you and be ok with it. It's unfair for you to start a relationship with someone when you're not completely over your ex because you'll most likely be incapable of giving the new person as much love as they deserve. Of course, there are situations where you get over an ex immediately after the relationship (topic for another day) but I still believe it's best to leave the dating scene for a while.

• You are complete:

Don't ever feel like you need someone else to complete you.  You are whole as you are! Not half or quarter but whole. A relationship is supposed to be two complete people complementing each other. It's just like beans and bread. You can eat them separately, but eating them together is amazing.

                  (Me feeling myself for giving such an adept analogy)

• You should love yourself first:

I see this literally everywhere I turn to because it's so true. You should love and understand yourself. You should be enough for yourself first before trying to be enough for another person. Give the love you're willing to give another person to yourself, you deserve it! Notice that I used the word 'should' instead of 'need' or 'must' because I acknowledge the fact that some of us are dealing with mental illnesses that make loving ourselves almost impossible and I don't feel such people are not deserving of love.

• You can be happy without a partner:

 I know that for those of us who are esteemed members of the 'God when' association, this may seem impossible but it's not. You don't need a relationship to be happy. Even when you're in a relationship, it should not be your only source of happiness. Find happiness in yourself, in your work, in your associations, your  hobbies, your friends, even in food(this is the most important to me😹).

                (Me when I hear food is ready. Jollof ti jina!!!)
There's so much about yourself you need to understand before getting into a (good) relationship. The need to ascertain the reasons why you think you need a relationship is as important as the decision to get into the relationship itself.
With these few awesome points of mine, I hope I've been able to convince and not confuse you that I'm fit to become your designated relationship coach.

Thank you! (Drops mic and proceeds to put on the coolest glasses ever.)   

     Comment down below if you want me to share some more of my awesome relationship advice with you!

(Me when someone asks me why I give such good relationship advice when I'm still single)